83 Dirty Talk Phrases That Drive Men Wild

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Do they want to be called a dirty slut or a beautiful goddess? Do they want us to tell them how gorgeous their body is or how much we will use them? Without knowing the language our partner enjoys, we may worry that we will take it too far or accidentally ruin the moment by saying the wrong thing. It is vulnerable to put yourself out there, and it may feel easier not to say anything than to share what turns you on for fear of rejection. Now, even dirty talk experts can run into awkward situations now and again.

• Introducing it at this point will rocket the tension and anticipation sky high, and cruise at altitude for the rest of the session.
• Do not make false utterance just to impress your man.
• Remember last night when we [insert sexual activity]?
• Start small, ramp up over time, and ask your partner (outside of your sexual play) if they have any preferences as to the words that you do or don’t use in your dirty talk repertoire.
• If anything can heat things in your bedroom, talking dirty can.

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• In a healthy and consensual relationship, the bedroom is a safe space.
• Just make sure that whatever you’re doing, your partner(s) are on board.
• One possible reason is that degrading language is considered taboo and therefore activates the brain’s fear responses in the amygdala—which also controls excitement and pleasure.

If he’s lucky, you might even wear the outfit he likes the next time you see him. Talking dirty to a guy is not easy for a lot of girls. They get self-conscious and don’t think they’re doing it right. These days, a lot of people don’t stimulate their brains very much. They’re too busy on social media and other things that they don’t exercise their creativity.

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Dr. Jansen has come across such cases in her practice. But if you have a timid lover who is interested in talking dirty but isn’t sure where to start, you can help them venture out of their comfort zone by teeing up opportunities for them to follow your lead. If you are that timid lover, ask your partner to give you direction on sexy things to say. Experimenting with role play is another way to break out of formulaic dirty talk and inspire more creativity. You can also try on different sex positions or acts—like anal sex or learning how to squirt during sex—by including them in your word play first.

Believe it or not, the brain is the most powerful because that’s where the sex drive begins. So, the right amount of dirty talk will excite and stimulate your mind and improve your sex life tenfold. Talking dirty to a guy is the key to teasing or even seducing a guy, as it can go a long way in building sexual tension. But dirty talk doesn’t come easily to everyone. Dirty talk can be romantic, then build up to something more graphic and back again. Don’t rush through it, and pull back if needed.

“Talking dirty is another way to arouse yourself and your partner. It can also help you discover what turns them on,” says Naturopathic Doctor Dr. Serena Goldstein. Another option would be to slowly start dirty talking with your partner, perhaps even via text, to assess what words they seem to enjoy. Do they describe their veiny cock or their sacred flower?